The thought's of Vince - Part 1.

The thoughts of Vincent.
According to Himself.

So, I’ve never written a book before. I don’t even know where to start. I have many things, thoughts and feelings I’d like to get across to the general public. Mostly about the amazing battle to understand the opposite sex.

Relationships start up every day, probably every minute across the globe. Sometimes it just feels right between a guy and a girl. No complications, games, or hidden agendas. It just works.

So, How come so many people struggle to break the first barrier? There’s some kind of deep feeling that women never understand men, and vice versa. Are we that primitive that we can’t see the obvious signs in front of us? From personal experience, I think it’s pretty hard to tell when a girl is interested in you. Unless you’ve had a few pints & pluck up the courage to actually ask them outright. Of course it’s a risky strategy, but go hard or go home right?
 The same applies to many aspects of modern life, I suppose if you don’t ask, you don’t get.

From a guy’s point of view, we are the easiest of species to understand. We make our thoughts pretty obvious to girls, some of us overdo it slightly, but I’m sure most of us have good intentions. I suppose we are all human after all, and everyone is afraid of rejection. Women need to understand this. Being a guy isn’t easy you know.
There are hundreds of examples, If a guy is given a girls phone number, the guy obviously thinks the girl is interested right? But you text the girl, and no response? That confuses the hell out of me, and just complicates something that could have been so simple. Text messages these days cost next to nothing, a simple hi, or even let the guy know where you stand from the start will save a lot of emotional stress! On both parts!
The guy will probably hassle the girl if he doesn’t hear from her, which will only annoy the girl. See where I’m going....?

Also, does everyone still believe in first impressions? I think that’s a phrase of the past. Many first impressions are made when under the influence of alcohol. When people aren’t themselves, they are more confident & have the cheek to say a lot more than the probably usually would. I’ve made mistakes before from first impressions, and believe me, I’ve learnt from every one. Whether it’s business or relationship wise. I think it’s all too much to judge someone straight away. Everyone needs to be more patient and give them time. Who knows who you’ve let slip away because you thought you knew someone before you actually did.
This is a subject I could probably write about forever. There is so much to say & try to explain. But everyone is different and tastes differ from person to person.

Pout
what’s with this? Come on girls. Seriously.
Most people communicate through Facebook these days, and other outlets of social media websites. You’ll always have a few girls who upload countless pictures of themselves, pouting, with too much make up on. Not too sure what this pose is about to be honest. Completely baffles me. If anything, from many points of view, it comes across as insecurity?

OK, so you KNOW you are a good looking person, but to post countless pictures ‘fishing’ for compliments? Guys just get sick of it. If you keep doing that, all you are asking for is becoming a trophy.
 You’ll soon wonder why you can’t find a decent guy who’ll respect you and want to spend quality time with you. There’s a simple answer really. Guys don’t like girls flaunting, it gives the impression that they get around. They’ll have countless guys commenting on pictures of them scantily clad. No one wants that. Deep down, everyone wants the girl they can’t have. That’s not the girl who has her ass & chest out in every picture on the internet asking if they are sexy enough. The girl everyone wants is the girl who covers us (respectfully) and always appears out of reach. No slutty pictures, pouting, anything like that. It’s a simple fact.

Girls who put slutty pictures everywhere & send guys pictures of them in next to nothing have no respect for themselves. The guy knows this. That’s why he’s probably only using you for one thing. Relationships are deeper than this. Personally, I like my girlfriend to be my best friend as well as my girl friend. Not just some trophy I go home to see naked.
Please don’t get me wrong, some guys love it, hell, most do. But all you are doing is getting your hopes up and looking for something that probably won’t happen.

Guy’s can be as cold as girls, If a guy sleeps with a girl the first time he meets her, automatically he’s going to think it’s easy sex, instantly you’ve gone from a nice girl, to a booty call. Simple? Maybe. You’ll start getting shorter texts, asking what you’re up to at random times of the night only looking for one thing. If that’s what being single is all about, then shoot away. You’ll only end up feeling lonely and having no one there for you.
Every single guy will eventually get bored and will want to settle down. I can guarantee you that they will not go for the girl who pouts. Just won’t work, they’ll look deeper than that. That’s the opinion of a genuine guy.

**OK, so i’ve been writing for what feels like forever now. So I’ll stop here. If you’ve enjoyed what I’ve written or have any questions for me to answer, please feel free to ask away. Thanks for your time**